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Public Health and Social Services

Many people are uncomfortable talking about suicide. However, talking about suicide does not increase the risk that someone will attempt suicide. 

If you or anyone you know needs help NOW (available 24/7) call or text, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline 

988 suicide and crisis lifeline

Warning Signs for Suicide 

  • Current talk of suicide or making a plan.
  • Signs of depression, such as moodiness, hopelessness, withdrawal.
  • Strong wish to die or preoccupation with death.
  • Giving away prized possessions.
  • Increased alcohol and/or drug use.
  • Hinting at not being around in the future or saying goodbye.
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Start the Conversation

1

Show you care. Let the person know you really care. Talk and listen carefully to what they have to say.

"I'm worried about you, about how you feel."
"You mean a lot to me. I want to help."
"I'm here, if you need someone to talk to."

2

Ask the question. Be direct and specific in a caring, non-confrontational way. Get the conversation started.

"Are you thinking about suicide?"
"Do you have a plan to kill yourself?"

3

Get help. Never keep talk of suicide a secret, even if you are asked to. It's better to risk a friendship than a life. Do not try to handle the situation on your own. You can be the most help by getting them help.

"I know where we can get some help."
"Let's talk to someone who can help - now."

How to Help: 

Never dismiss what your loved one is saying. If your child/adolescent, fiend, or family member confides thoughts of suicide, believe them and give them support Listen with empathy and provide support. A fight or breakup might not seem like a big deal, but for a young person it can feel immense. Empathize and listen. Don't minimize their feelings, it can affect how they reach out for support in the future. 
Learn the warning signs. Friends sometimes let friends know if they are thinking about suicide or dying. Other times, changes in behavior may show that someone is struggling. For more Don't keep suicide a secret. If your friend is considering suicide, don't promise to keep it a secret. Tell him or her how you can help, but you need to involve other people, like a trusted adult. Neither of you have to face this alone. 

How to Take Care of Yourself: 

Ask for help. Don't be afraid to reach out to friends or trusted adults in your life for support. You can also call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline anytime - calls are confidential.   Make a safety plan. A safety plan can help guide you through difficult moments and keep you safe. Having a template on hand with an established plan may be helpful, or you can get help and guidance at mysafetyplan.org.
Family conflicts, relationship hardships, school pressures, and discovering your identity can feel overwhelming and impossible to deal with alone. Losing relationships and important people in our lives can also feel overwhelming. Seeking out support can make these changes manageable.  Love and friendship are all about respect. Toxic and unhealthy relationships can negatively affect you. Whether you're dating or building new friendships, remember your rights, if you're being bullied help is also available

Additional Resources

Suicide is the second leading cause of death for Washington teens 15-19 years old (WA DOH) 

The following are 24/7, free and confidential. If someone is an IMMEDIATE harm to self or others, do not wait call 911.

Lifeline

Veterans 

Distress Helpline

988 National Suicide and Crisis Hotline