Family Law Mediation

​MANDATORY PARENTING PLAN MEDIATION PROGRAM
Since 1987, the State of Washington has required separating parents to create a “Parenting Plan”, which will serve as the guide for continuing, joint parenting of the children. The plan is comprehensive and covers such issues as when the children will be with each parent and how decisions about the children will be made. You will need a parenting plan in order to complete your legal proceeding.

Mediation services have been available in the area for over ten years and many separating parents have chosen to develop the Parenting Plan in a Mediation session. If separating parents try but are unable to develop a complete Parenting Plan on their own, the Thurston County Superior Court may refer you to the Mandatory Parenting Plan Mediation Program. This also applies to modifications to existing parenting plans and paternity actions.

What is Mediation?
  • A meeting between people to discuss issues of mutual interest, with a neutral third party mediator providing guidance during the discussion.
  • Issues may include but are not limited to parenting.
  • The mediator’s job is to keep the emotional climate safe and the discussion focused on the issues and interests.
  • The result can be a mutually satisfying agreement for the future; one that the two parties have developed and that they both understand. It’s the kind of contract that people keep.
Will the agreement be legal?

​ The agreement is meant to be a contract between people and can be filed with the court.

Where do I go for Mediation?

Mediation is available through:

If you still have questions you may call Court Administration at (360) 709-3201.

What questions should I ask?
  • ​Ask how much it will cost.
  • Ask what processes they use and be sure you are comfortable with them.
  • If you have concerns about personal safety, ask what measures might be taken to protect you.
Why would I go to Mediation?
  • ​If you need a chance to talk to the other parent to discuss issues with a third party, a mediator, providing guidance during the discussion.
  • To keep the process moving.
  • Lack of communication can slow the progress down. Sometimes with issues like parenting, communication with the other party can range from “not difficult” to "on a bet.” Mediation can help break a stalemate.
  • Although it is not mandatory, parties may agree to mediate other issues such as property.
What about my attorney?

​ If you have an attorney, you will attend the mediation session on your own but should consult with your attorney before finalizing agreements.

What does it cost?

​ Mediation fees vary. The Dispute Resolution Center (DRC) fees are based on a sliding scale of household or organizational income. Contact the DRC for more information.

Who should not use mediation?

​ If you are afraid for your personal safety to meet with the other parent, mediation may not be appropriate!

Entering Mediation should be discussed with your attorney, if you are represented.

Mediation is mandatory unless the court orders otherwise.

Talk to some mediators. They can help determine whether mediation is a good choice for you.

Court Forms

Order to Transfer to Family Court Services for Mediation

Notice of Appointment of Mediator

Stipulation to use of Family Court Mediator

Stipulation to use of Private Mediator

​Mediation Session Report

How do I get on the mediation panel?

​You must have completed a 40 hour mediation training course.

What to submit:

Resource Application

Resume

Applications should be submitted to Court Administration at Family & Juvenile Court.

The parties to any court action involving a parenting plan are required to participate in mediation before proceeding to trial, except in cases involving domestic violence.

Local Court Rule: LSPR 94.05